One Man’s Goddess, Another Man’s Annoyance

I literally laughed out loud when I opened up twitter to see a retweet by one of my followers which lead me to this quote:

“No matter how good she looks, someone somewhere is tired of her shit.”

It inspired me to write out this post. I’m a guy (hello!) so I’ve been in that moment way too many times in which you see an attractive woman and as much as you would like to make a move and speak to her you ultimately negotiate your way into backing out of it. What’s the usual excuse? She’s out of my league. It’s easy for us to acknowledge wimping out if we can come up with a clever little way to convince ourselves that backing down is justified.

When my friends approach me and ask me how it is that I just end up talking to people (usually referring to women they deem attractive or a “bad bitch”) I just tell them, it doesn’t matter if you think she is a 2 or a 12. Somewhere in the world there is someone who has gotten so tired of her shit that they would pay you to get rid of her. Remember that and you’re in the land of the untouchables.

Good Guys, Bad Boys and The Other Dudes

We all know the common phrases. Good girls like bad guys. Nice guys finish last. I think a lot of men struggle with this ideology for a multitude of reasons. If anyone stresses it more, it’s the good guy. The good guy never gets his credit where credit is due. He constantly feels overlooked and under-sought when it comes to women. The bad boy on the other hand has very little to stress. Why? Because he gets to turn out all of the good ones. But the good guy should find some comfort in finishing last, right? Not so comforting for most guys who consider themselves to fall under that title. So what’s a good guy to do when he feels his back is against the wall and he’s tired of his dry spell? Become the other dude. 

Why I Think Role-Playing Works So Well

If you’re reading this, you’re likely old enough to have:

• Role-played
• Thought of role-playing with your partner
• Become curious about role-playing just because curiousity kills cats or
• Been rejected for wanting to role-play

Let’s face it, some people are more shy than others and as humans we just have varied interests and preferences. Role-playing surely isn’t for everyone. I acknowledge that. But for those who like it, this is my little theory on why it works so well, and why that reason isn’t a bad thing, even though some may think it is. 

Stop Using Love as an Excuse For Lying to Yourself

I have a lot of female friends. I mean a lot. So much that I have had to break up with most of them to avoid losing my sanity. One thing I noticed that almost every single one of them have done either at present or in the past is lie to themselves and blame it on love. What is love? Baby don’t hurt me. Love is, apparently, when you feel so strongly about someone else that you cheat yourself. At least, so it seems in these situations. 

Don’t Expect a Relationship to Complete You

Feeling incomplete or empty is no unfamiliar concept to anyone. I think it’s safe to say that most of us have been at a point in our lives at which we felt incomplete or alone. Filling the void can be one of the toughest things to do, especially since many people either cannot see the issue clearly or they misinterpret the issues at hand. Some find completion in working towards something they can put their names to. Some people find completion in relationships. Although it may seem like a fix at first, it’s only a band-aid you will soon have to rip off of an open sore.